Wow, I know this already, every thought I already have, has already been thought. What I know is an embodiment of all that I learn as I challenge myself to grow. So I started this blog post, made the title and thought, I bet you someone has some cool posts on attachment and ego. So the first one to pop up is what I’ll share because she says it probably more concise than I could.
Alexandra Goldwell, MA, RCC
“Alexandra teaches yoga and meditation and is a holistic, body-centered therapist seeing individuals and couples in private practice. After having found Western psychology to be insufficient at explaining human nature, she pursued Eastern ways of knowing and found an awakened meditation teacher and medical intuitive whom she has studied with for the past 9 years. Her work incorporates Eastern and Western tools for healing and is driven by intuition. She keeps life in balance by spending adequate time on the mat, dancing, in nature, and with dear friends.
LOVING WITHOUT ATTACHMENT TO THE EGO
This is a nice idea, certainly one encouraged by the yogic philosphy, yet we may not have an idea of what it really involves. As a therapist and yoga teacher, it has been rare to come across people who are interested in letting go of attachment to the ego. In a way, we enjoy the stories and dramas created by ego, and then other days, (when you have acted out the same patterned behavior for the millionth time), we hate it!
If you ask inside, “Do I really want to love without ego?”, and YES! comes from inside your being, (not from the head), then go for it. If it is your heart’s desire to love and experience relationship in this way, you must follow it! Otherwise, feel free to stay in ego love, watch it, and enjoy it. Practice observation of the projections of love, i.e. loving the projected mother or father, or loving the reflection of your perfect self or most hated self. There are lots of themes of ego love that can be quite dramatic, engaging, and chaotic. These games can serve as opportunities to learn a great deal about oneself. Enjoy the opportunity.
Even if one doesn’t really know how to love without attachment to ego, (like me, I’m learning as I go), if we remain committed to the intention, the heart will continue to expand and ego will continue to dissolve.
My elementary understanding of what comprises a tantric relationship is where I am committed to loving another from my Pure Heart rather than the small ego, remembering the other as the Beloved rather than as their small ego, and choosing to act with love in every moment with the other. How fantastic! …… and how utterly challenging.
In my explorations with sacred relationship, here’s the how to’s I’ve discovered so far.
5 Tips for How to Love Fully without attachment to the Ego
1. Get to know your ego, make friends with it, understand and accept its existence within you
2. Commit to a consistent meditative and breath practice so your ability to witness your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors with some distance increases.
3. Every time you notice the ego tempting you to put up walls of fear, resistance and judgement towards another, look within yourself to see what you are not content with within your own being.
4. Be honest with yourself. Be honest with others. Share your ego and its’ fears.
5. Share love whenever you remember. With your partner, your children, your friends, a stranger, a collegue, the Existence around you….in the most subtle ways we can share love and expand the energy of the heart. With some this may be a smile, a silent prayer, with others it may be sharing attention, listening, playing, giving something, cooking, writing a letter, massaging, holding a hand, a phone call, singing, dancing, creating, whenever you remember, share your love. This consistent remembering to take action from the heart (when it’s not an obligation!), expands consciousness and diminishes unconsciousness (ego).
Experiment and enjoy!”
Find her at http://www.shanti-centre.com or alexandragoldwell@gmail.com
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